Posted by: Postordinandy | February 5, 2015

#Timetotalk for 5 minutes today

I am a 43 year old man, separated (fast heading for divorce), with 3 beautiful, witty, intelligent and lovely daughters.

3 years ago I wanted to kill myself.

3 years ago, a warm embrace from my daughters felt like – well, nothing really.

3 years ago you would most likely find me sat on a sofa at most times of the day, staring at a TV screen (that may, or may not, be on).

3 years ago I couldn’t function well enough to hold down a job, or look meaningfully for a new one.

3 years later, and I have a job that (for the most part) I can cope with and even excel in.

3 years later, and the endless activity of my brain has slowed enough for me to be productive (often).

3 years later, and I can be reduced to tears of joy when my children rush at me for a hug.

still have depression.

I am still on meds,

I am still physically exhausted too often.

I still have weeks where the washing piles up in the sink as I can’t find the psychic energy to put it into the dishwasher right next to it.

still have evenings where I stare mutely at the TV, and only notice hours later that time has passed.

But I am still here.


If you suffer, if you know someone who does (you do!), take 5 minutes today to learn a little more about mental health.

Here’s a great place to start:

(if you struggle with the issues yourself)

(if you love someone who does)

And here’s a great place to find out more:

Mental health myths and facts (from Time To Change)

  • Myth: Mental health problems are very rare.
  • Fact: 1 in 4 people will experience a mental health problem in any given year. Find out more >>
  • Myth: People with mental illness aren’t able to work.
  • Fact: We probably all work with someone experiencing a mental health problem.
  • Myth: Young people just go through ups and downs as part of puberty, it’s nothing.
  • Fact: 1 in 10 young people will experience a mental health problem. Find out more >>
  • Myth: People with mental health illnesses are usually violent and unpredictable.
  • Fact: People with a mental illness are more likely to be a victim of violence. Find out more >>
  • Myth: People with mental health problems don’t experience discrimination
  • Fact: 9 out of 10 people with mental health problems experience stigma and discrimination. Find out more >>
  • Myth: It’s easy for young people to talk to friends about their feelings.
  • Fact: Nearly three in four young people fear the reactions of friends when they talk about their mental health problems.

Statistics about violence and mental illness

  • The majority of violent crimes and homicides are committed by people who do not have mental health problems.
  • People with mental health problems are more dangerous to themselves than they are to others: 90 per cent of people who die through suicide in the UK are experiencing mental distress
  • In 2009, the total population in England and Wales aged 16 or over was just over 43 million. It is estimated that about one in six of the adult population will have a significant mental health problem at any one time, (more than 7 million people). Given this number and the 50–70 cases of homicide a year involving people known to have a mental health problem at the time of the murder, clearly the statistics data do not support the sensationalised media coverage about the danger that people with mental health problems present to the community.
  • Substance abuse appears to play a role: The prevalence of violence is higher among people who have symptoms of substance abuse (discharged psychiatric patients and non-patients).


  1. great and inspiring piece of writing .As hard as it might- be its so important that the truth is out there- let others find hope in this!!

  2. Thanks Anji – truly appreciated

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